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Matt Titus Valentine’s Day Tips: Creating the Mood

Matt Titus Valentine's Day Tips: Creating the Mood

Matchmaker Matt Titus Gives you tips on creating the mood for the most romantic Valentine’s Day

Matchmaker Matt Titus Gives you tips on creating the mood for the most romantic Valentine’s Day


Creating the right mood starts with lighting. Whether you live in a big house or a studio apartment, lighting is the most important aspect of romantic staging.. He suggests closing the shades or drapes to create a more intimate and serene oasis, switching to softer bulbs (which you can find in any lighting store or a Home Depot) and opting for a red or purple bulb to create a warm ambience in some lamps or fixtures. Of course, lighting candles is the quintessential way to have romance permeate any room. If you are averse to open flames, there are many types of flameless candles available that can create the same warm sensuality.


Focus on flowers

No Valentine’s Day decor would be complete without flowers — and lots of them. You have a few ways to incorporate beautiful blooms into your space without relying on a simple bouquet in a vase. Place small bowls with floating candles (regular or flameless) among a sea of flower petals to add a dramatic touch. Or you can focus on individual blooms. Individual bud vases are delicate and can be placed at different corners and areas of your home. Besides roses, flowers such as lilies, irises, tulips and orchids provide a sexy, feminine and inviting ambience.


Add music

If you’re having a romantic dinner at home, music can go a long way toward setting the mood you want. Create a playlist with romantic tunes to play in the background. You don’t want the music to overpower the environment — it should be soft and sensual but loud enough to filter through the room. Depending on what moves you or puts you in the mood, design a mix that will complement your surroundings.

Choose the right colors

Put down the pink ribbons and red bows. Valentine’s Day colors can be both romantic and sophisticated. Certain hues invoke romance, such as burgundy, deep reds, violet and warm browns. You don’t need to necessarily paint your walls and start from scratch, but adding some deep-colored pillows and throw blankets can up the romantic ante in any room. Long plush velvet drapes, whether covering windows or acting as a room divider, also add a soft and sensuous presence.

Don’t discount tableware

The more effort you put into making the evening special, the more romantic it will seem — no matter what’s on the menu. Even if you are having Chinese takeout and soda, break out the dishes and wine glasses. Actually take time to set the kitchen table and use silverware rather than the free plastic utensils. Turn off the TV, light the candles, turn on the music and enjoy each other’s company. That’s the most romantic thing you can do in any room.

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Matt Titus on Rachel Ray: Dating Tips For The Single Ladies

Matt Titus on Rachel Ray: Dating Tips For The Single Ladies

Sunny Anderson is usually whipping up a recipe when she stops by, but this time she’s letting us help her try to add some heat to her social life! After checking out a singles mixer and going on a date from a matchmaker, Sunny gets tips for meeting Mr. Right from Why Hasn’t He Called author, Matt Titus!

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Don’t Be His Bed Cred

You remember the exact moment. You were both hot and heavy and the camera was an arms length away. He was a stud, but now, six months later the dud has been flashing nude pictures of you for all his bro’s to see.

It’s called Bed Cred in guy talk. Ray Jay has it, along with Tommy Lee, Brett Michaels and the list goes on.  Bed Cred is the power to make a chick strip naked and perform in front of the camera. Sharing that Bed Cred is a right of honor with some guys, case in point, a client of mine had a boyfriend who would get together with his buddies every few months for an event they called “the wall of shame”. They would actually take turns pinning up naked pictures of their recent conquests in a competition to see who bagged the hottest chick. Guys consider Bed Cred something that puts them into the “circle of royalty” among their friends.

It’s easy to get, it’s hard to get rid of.

It started when he told you how hot you looked wrapped up in those sheets. Then, he asked to snap a few sultry shots.

You catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and notice that you really do have that sexy bed-head look.  You agree under the one condition, you have final cut approval.

What he was really thinking, I’ll take a couple of headshots while I tell her she’s totally hot. Then I’ll kiss her and she’ll be ready to bare it all.

After he snaps off a few shots, it makes you feel sexy.  Then, he starts kissing you and touching you like no other man. He stops, looks at you and says, “Babe, you know what would be such a turn on, artistic pictures of your beautiful body. I’ve never wanted to do that with anyone else.”

Inside his mind he’s thinking, my boys will die when they see these. I can’t believe I lost the pictures I had of my last girlfriend. This girl is ten times hotter.

The next thirty minutes you turn into a Playboy centerfold, and follow it up with the best sex he’s ever had.

Inside his mind, he will have this memory of you even when there is another girl in his bed.

For girls, the only way to avoid what happens next is not to stand in front of that camera to being with.

Six months later you’ve been memorialized in his camera phone for all his bro’s to see.

Guys consider Bed Cred something that puts then into the “circle of royalty” among friends.

Simply put, men are visual creatures. At the end of a relationship, the emotional attachment is over. While women save love notes and jewelry, men have their photos.

In the end, the “ex” can be the best thing to building a guys “bed cred” because according to him, she would do anything for him in bed because he was the best she ever had.

It would be great to ask her, but you can’t, because she’s long gone.

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