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When is he going take down his Dating Profiles?

When is he going take down his Dating Profiles?

Dear Matt,

We’ve had a few dates and it’s always a good time. The problem is, he still has his profile up on two online dating websites? Can I ask him to take it down?

 

Matt Says: 

The goal here is for him to actively take down his profile on his own without you asking, hinting or requesting him to do so. If he does this on his own, it will make you feel extremely secure in the relationship. Give him at least 2 months before you even bring it up. Here are some ways to deal with it in the meantime.

Don’t dwell on it. Does it really matter that his profile is up when you guys have a great time every time you get together?

Where’s your confidence? Remember, a confident girl is a sexy girl. Just relax. It’s a little early for you to even be thinking about him taking down his profile. Let him have at it!

Let him continue to meet women that absolutely pale in comparison to you. He’ll figure out soon enough that he only wants to be with you!

 

And, if you have a question, ask Matt at  http://www.matttitus.com/contact/

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How to handle the morning after our 1st night together ?


couple in bed 

Dear Matt,

I finally spent the night over at the guy’s apartment I’ve been seeing and everything went REALLY well. But the next morning, the conversation was weird. Any advice to avoid the awkward sleepovers the morning after?

Matt Says:

The sun comes up and suddenly it’s all clear. He sees your bed head and you notice his place isn’t quite as cool as it looked at 1am.
The next morning after the first sleepover can be awkward no matter how relaxed and confident both people are.
Here are a few things that might keep the sleepovers as simple as the night before.

  • Don’t feel the need to have a witty conversation ready and waiting.
  • Keep it low key. You don’t have to have plans for the next rendezvous before you leave.
  • Exit gracefully. Just because you spent the night together, it doesn’t mean he wants to see you for the next 8 hours. 
  • Let him miss you when you leave and LET HIM CALL YOU before you return.

And, if you have a question, ask Matt at http://www.matttitus.com/contact/

Follow Matt On Twitter: @MattTitus

 

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Can I send a guy flowers after a second date?

women-giving-flowers_006Dear Matt:

 Is there something wrong with sending a guy flowers?

I did it after a second date to say thank you, and I haven’t heard from him since.

 

Matt Says:

The best thing that you could send a guy after a great second date is…NOTHING. Men do not respond well to gestures like flowers.

Most likely, that bouquet  will be interpreted by him as a symbol that you think that the relationship is more serious than it really is… and he will withdraw.

A 3-step plan to make sure you get a third date.

  1. Do nothing. Wait for him to make the next move
  2. Make him wait. Don’t agree to go out immediately. This is what separates the girls from the women. Tell him you must check your calendar and get back to him (especially if he waits more than 4 days to call you).
  3. Do NOT obsess. Remember, you have only gone out with him twice. Anybody can be on his or her best behavior for two dates. Stay busy, spend time with friends, workout and never, ever practice putting his last name after yours!

 

And, if you have a question, ask Matt: http://www.matttitus.com/contact/

Follow Matt On Twitter: @MattTitus

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1st Vacation w/ new Boyfriend -Need Advice!

Couple at b&bDear Matt:

I am going out of town for the weekend with my new boyfriend. We are going to be spending a lot of time together and I am a little worried it will freak both of us out. We usually just see each other once a week, is there a way to make it light and fun.

Matt’s Answer:

Before you know it, Mr. Right Now is going to be asking you to head out of town on a weekend summer trip. But, spending 24/7 together can reveal a lot about a person, and you have played it perfect so far. Make it a weekend like no other. Here are a few ways to ensure three days he will never forget, starting on Friday after work!

  • Guys hate to wait. When he arrives to pick you up, be ready to go. Don’t fuss with your hair, search for your favorite boots and then re-check to make sure you unplugged your flat iron. Be ready when he gets there. No fuss, no muss.
  • Travel light. One bag max! Don’t turn him into your little luggage-carrying weekend Sherpa! For the single girl on the go, you only need a few changes of clothes to get you through. Make sure you can interchange the pieces of each outfit, he’ll find you low maintenance and highly attractive.
  • Switch up your scent. To ensure he’s daydreaming about you come Monday morning add a little perfume to the trip. One dab on each wrist, two behind the ears and a dollop on his favorite tee will keep him remembering.
  • Don’t Call/Text. Once he drops you off and the weekend of bliss is over, don’t start calling or texting him to let him know how great it was. He just spent a long time with you in “guy time.” Let him savor the hours spent and then let him do the dialing. If your time together was half as great as you think it was, he will be trying to get himself penciled in before next weekend rolls around.

 

 

And, if you have a question, ask Matt at  http://www.MattTitus.com

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Ask Matt Titus: Do I Tell Him About My Past?

Dear Matt,
I am bold, very open and always honest about my sexual past with boyfriends. But, with the guy I am currently seeing, I am a little reluctant to tell him about my past. Any help you can give me? I don’t want to mess things up and I am sure I am not the only woman facing this problem.

A: Any man who has a problem with an experienced and mature woman, who knows exactly what she wants, needs to stay in HIS white picket fence fantasy world. There is nothing wrong with making mistakes and picking men who were not right for you in the past. The good news is, you know what you are looking for and what is right for you, now. Here are a few ways to ensure your former flings don’t come back to haunt you.

* Avoid bragging about the days you were what you call a “party girl.” It may sound hot to your girlfriends, but it probably doesn’t sound cool to him.

* Your relationship is not a confessional. It is okay NOT to reveal everything about yourself; a little mystery goes a long way.

* If you run into an old flame, introduce him, and make sure your boyfriend has the center spotlight. Don’t spend your Saturday night making excuses, explaining every intimate detail of this particular past tryst.

And, if you have a question, ask Matt Titus at http://www.MattTitus.com

Follow Matt On Twitter: @MattTitus

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Ladies: Don’t Be Afraid to Make the FIRST Move!

Stop waiting for him to come to you! That’s advice from a recent Women’s Health article, which says 55% of men find it sexy when a woman approaches them. Men enjoy receiving attention just as much as women do. If you think a guy will be less interested if you make the first move, you’re completely wrong. Don’t be afraid to smile, make eye contact, subtlety touch his arm and definitely compliment him (YES, guys like compliments too!). You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

Check out my appearance on Rachael Ray giving flirting and dating tips to The Food Network’s fabulous Sunny Anderson.

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Matt Titus on Today Show

Matt Titus on Today Show

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Matt Titus on Rachel Ray: Dating Tips For The Single Ladies

Matt Titus on Rachel Ray: Dating Tips For The Single Ladies

Sunny Anderson is usually whipping up a recipe when she stops by, but this time she’s letting us help her try to add some heat to her social life! After checking out a singles mixer and going on a date from a matchmaker, Sunny gets tips for meeting Mr. Right from Why Hasn’t He Called author, Matt Titus!

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Matt Titus On Dr. Drew

Matt Titus On Dr. Drew

What’s worse? Being dumped or being the dumpee? That was the focus of Dr. Drew Wednesday night.

“People define their lives by their relationships, and I don’t think that’s healthy,” said Matt Titus, author of “Why Hasn’t He Called?”

Titus added, “The person that is dumped is not the problem. The dumper is the person that has the problem.  Ninety-five person of the time, there’s some insecurity, some problem, or some weird thing.”

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CBS News: How To Deal With A Bad Boss!

I talked with Chris Wragge and Erica Hill about bad bosses and how best to deal with them! How do you deal with you? Let me know!

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