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Matt Titus Valentine’s Day Tips: Creating the Mood

Matt Titus Valentine's Day Tips: Creating the Mood

Matchmaker Matt Titus Gives you tips on creating the mood for the most romantic Valentine’s Day

Matchmaker Matt Titus Gives you tips on creating the mood for the most romantic Valentine’s Day

Lighting

Creating the right mood starts with lighting. Whether you live in a big house or a studio apartment, lighting is the most important aspect of romantic staging.. He suggests closing the shades or drapes to create a more intimate and serene oasis, switching to softer bulbs (which you can find in any lighting store or a Home Depot) and opting for a red or purple bulb to create a warm ambience in some lamps or fixtures. Of course, lighting candles is the quintessential way to have romance permeate any room. If you are averse to open flames, there are many types of flameless candles available that can create the same warm sensuality.

 

Focus on flowers

No Valentine’s Day decor would be complete without flowers — and lots of them. You have a few ways to incorporate beautiful blooms into your space without relying on a simple bouquet in a vase. Place small bowls with floating candles (regular or flameless) among a sea of flower petals to add a dramatic touch. Or you can focus on individual blooms. Individual bud vases are delicate and can be placed at different corners and areas of your home. Besides roses, flowers such as lilies, irises, tulips and orchids provide a sexy, feminine and inviting ambience.

 

Add music

If you’re having a romantic dinner at home, music can go a long way toward setting the mood you want. Create a playlist with romantic tunes to play in the background. You don’t want the music to overpower the environment — it should be soft and sensual but loud enough to filter through the room. Depending on what moves you or puts you in the mood, design a mix that will complement your surroundings.

Choose the right colors

Put down the pink ribbons and red bows. Valentine’s Day colors can be both romantic and sophisticated. Certain hues invoke romance, such as burgundy, deep reds, violet and warm browns. You don’t need to necessarily paint your walls and start from scratch, but adding some deep-colored pillows and throw blankets can up the romantic ante in any room. Long plush velvet drapes, whether covering windows or acting as a room divider, also add a soft and sensuous presence.

Don’t discount tableware

The more effort you put into making the evening special, the more romantic it will seem — no matter what’s on the menu. Even if you are having Chinese takeout and soda, break out the dishes and wine glasses. Actually take time to set the kitchen table and use silverware rather than the free plastic utensils. Turn off the TV, light the candles, turn on the music and enjoy each other’s company. That’s the most romantic thing you can do in any room.

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Ask Matt Titus:Is it too early to move in together?

Ask Matt Titus:Is it too early to move in together?

Dear Matt,

I am planning to move in with my boyfriend. We have been dating for about six months. Do you think this step will bring us closer together or could it be worse for the relationship?

Matt Titus says:

This is a big step in a relationship, and it’s not just about finding a great apartment and buying some cool items at Bed, Bath & Beyond to fix it up. There are some key matters you should be sorting through to make sure you’re not boxing up your things six months down the road.

  • First, he needs to know that YOU consider this a big step in the relationship. Do not let him think you are willing to just be his “roommate.”
  •  Second, it is important to let him know where you stand; but you should not have to ask him where HE is in the relationship. If this man wants to spend his life with you, he needs to be sure HE is ready for this next “move.”
  • Finally, make certain you are comfortable with his level of commitment, before you hire a U-Haul and sign any 2-year lease.

 

And, if you have a question, ask Matt: http://www.matttitus.com/contact/
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Ask Matt Titus: All we do is fight! How can we reconnect?

Ask Matt Titus: All we do is fight! How can we reconnect?

Dear Matt,

 I had the perfect relationship for six months. My boyfriend and I loved to do everything together, but it seems lately that all we do is fight. Can you tell me how to reconnect?

 

Matt Titus Says:

  • Don’t be so available. No discussions just do it. Actions are always more powerful than words. If he doesn’t seem to notice your resentment, then it may be time to think about moving on. If he becomes concerned then, let him chase you for a while.

 

  • Tell him that you need “time” to think about what you want in this relationship, because you are currently involved in a completely unsatisfying one. You will know where you stand by his reaction and response.

 

  • Plan a nice night together; take time to talk and ask him if he would be willing to make some changes to bring the relationship back to center. If he is concerned and open to the changes, then you have a shot. If he becomes defensive, confrontational or indifferent, it may be time to move on. Don’t waste time with someone who does not want to make the effort to be reconnected to you.

 

And, if you have a question, ask Matt:   http://www.matttitus.com/contact/

Follow Matt On Twitter: @MattTitus

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Ask Matt Titus: When is he going to take down his Dating Profiles?

Ask Matt Titus: When is he going to take down his Dating Profiles?

Dear Matt,

We’ve had a few dates and it’s always a good time. The problem is, he still has his profile up on two online dating websites? Can I ask him to take it down?

 

Matt Titus Says: 

The goal here is for him to actively take down his profile on his own without you asking, hinting or requesting him to do so. If he does this on his own, it will make you feel extremely secure in the relationship. Give him at least 2 months before you even bring it up. Here are some ways to deal with it in the meantime.

Don’t dwell on it. Does it really matter that his profile is up when you guys have a great time every time you get together?

Where’s your confidence? Remember, a confident girl is a sexy girl. Just relax. It’s a little early for you to even be thinking about him taking down his profile. Let him have at it!

Let him continue to meet women that absolutely pale in comparison to you. He’ll figure out soon enough that he only wants to be with you!

 

And, if you have a question, ask Matt at  http://www.matttitus.com/contact/

Follow Matt on Twitter: @matttitus

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Ask Matt Titus: How to make the morning after less awkward


couple in bed Matchmaker Matt Titus answers your dating and relationship questions

Dear Matt,

I finally spent the night over at the guy’s apartment I’ve been seeing and everything went REALLY well. But the next morning, the conversation was weird. Any advice to avoid the awkward sleepovers the morning after?

Matt Titus Says:

The sun comes up and suddenly it’s all clear. He sees your bed head and you notice his place isn’t quite as cool as it looked at 1am.
The next morning after the first sleepover can be awkward no matter how relaxed and confident both people are.
Here are a few things that might keep the sleepovers as simple as the night before.

  • Don’t feel the need to have a witty conversation ready and waiting.
  • Keep it low key. You don’t have to have plans for the next rendezvous before you leave.
  • Exit gracefully. Just because you spent the night together, it doesn’t mean he wants to see you for the next 8 hours. 
  • Let him miss you when you leave and LET HIM CALL YOU before you return.

And, if you have a question, ask Matt at http://www.matttitus.com/contact/

Follow Matt On Twitter: @MattTitus

 

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Ask Matt Titus: Can I send a guy flowers?

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Matchmaker Matt Titus answers your dating and relationship questions

Dear Matt:

 Is there something wrong with sending a guy flowers?

I did it after a second date to say thank you, and I haven’t heard from him since.

 

Matt Titus Says:

The best thing that you could send a guy after a great second date is…NOTHING. Men do not respond well to gestures like flowers.

Most likely, that bouquet  will be interpreted by him as a symbol that you think that the relationship is more serious than it really is… and he will withdraw.

A 3-step plan to make sure you get a third date.

  1. Do nothing. Wait for him to make the next move
  2. Make him wait. Don’t agree to go out immediately. This is what separates the girls from the women. Tell him you must check your calendar and get back to him (especially if he waits more than 4 days to call you).
  3. Do NOT obsess. Remember, you have only gone out with him twice. Anybody can be on his or her best behavior for two dates. Stay busy, spend time with friends, workout and never, ever practice putting his last name after yours!

 

And, if you have a question, ask Matt: http://www.matttitus.com/contact/

Follow Matt On Twitter: @MattTitus

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Ask Matt Titus: Advice on Vacation with new Boyfriend

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Matchmaker Matt Titus answers your questions about love, dating and relationships

Dear Matt:

I am going out of town for the weekend with my new boyfriend. We are going to be spending a lot of time together and I am a little worried it will freak both of us out. We usually just see each other once a week, is there a way to make it light and fun.

Matt Titus Answer:

Before you know it, Mr. Right Now is going to be asking you to head out of town on a weekend summer trip. But, spending 24/7 together can reveal a lot about a person, and you have played it perfect so far. Make it a weekend like no other. Here are a few ways to ensure three days he will never forget, starting on Friday after work!

  • Guys hate to wait. When he arrives to pick you up, be ready to go. Don’t fuss with your hair, search for your favorite boots and then re-check to make sure you unplugged your flat iron. Be ready when he gets there. No fuss, no muss.
  • Travel light. One bag max! Don’t turn him into your little luggage-carrying weekend Sherpa! For the single girl on the go, you only need a few changes of clothes to get you through. Make sure you can interchange the pieces of each outfit, he’ll find you low maintenance and highly attractive.
  • Switch up your scent. To ensure he’s daydreaming about you come Monday morning add a little perfume to the trip. One dab on each wrist, two behind the ears and a dollop on his favorite tee will keep him remembering.
  • Don’t Call/Text. Once he drops you off and the weekend of bliss is over, don’t start calling or texting him to let him know how great it was. He just spent a long time with you in “guy time.” Let him savor the hours spent and then let him do the dialing. If your time together was half as great as you think it was, he will be trying to get himself penciled in before next weekend rolls around.

 

 

And, if you have a question, ask Matt at  http://www.MattTitus.com

Follow Matt On Twitter: @MattTitus

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Ask Matt Titus: Do I Tell Him About My Past?

Ask Matt Titus:  Do I Tell Him About My Past?

Matchmaker Matt Titus answers your questions about love, dating and relationships

Dear Matt,
I am bold, very open and always honest about my sexual past with boyfriends. But, with the guy I am currently seeing, I am a little reluctant to tell him about my past. Any help you can give me? I don’t want to mess things up and I am sure I am not the only woman facing this problem.

Matt Titus Answers: Any man who has a problem with an experienced and mature woman, who knows exactly what she wants, needs to stay in HIS white picket fence fantasy world. There is nothing wrong with making mistakes and picking men who were not right for you in the past. The good news is, you know what you are looking for and what is right for you, now. Here are a few ways to ensure your former flings don’t come back to haunt you.

* Avoid bragging about the days you were what you call a “party girl.” It may sound hot to your girlfriends, but it probably doesn’t sound cool to him.

* Your relationship is not a confessional. It is okay NOT to reveal everything about yourself; a little mystery goes a long way.

* If you run into an old flame, introduce him, and make sure your boyfriend has the center spotlight. Don’t spend your Saturday night making excuses, explaining every intimate detail of this particular past tryst.

And, if you have a question, ask Matt Titus at http://www.MattTitus.com

Follow Matt On Twitter: @MattTitus

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Matt Titus on Bethenny

Matt Titus on Bethenny

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Matt Titus on Fox Business News

Matt Titus on Fox Business News

According to a new survey, bad credit is now a dealbreaker when it comes to romance. Apparently women are more obsessed with these numbers than men, but relationship expert Matt Titus says the numbers matter to both sexes. Titus says men don’t want another dependent, and women are looking for someone who can potentially take care of them, if worst comes to worst. But Tracy Byrnes wants to know: Is this view outdated?

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