Stop waiting for him to come to you! That’s advice from a recent Women’s Health article, which says 55% of men find it sexy when a woman approaches them. Men enjoy receiving attention just as much as women do. If you think a guy will be less interested if you make the first move, you’re completely wrong. Don’t be afraid to smile, make eye contact, subtlety touch his arm and definitely compliment him (YES, guys like compliments too!). You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.Leave a comment
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Posted in Sex Tagged adultery, dating advice, relationship advice, sexless relationship
When the sex stops, is it OK to engage in adultery? That’s the question Dr. Mark White posed in a recent Psychology Today article, and it’s created some strong responses from people on both sides of the fence. As a New York City matchmaker and dating coach, I’d like to weigh in on the debate.
There are those who say denying sex is a betrayal on par with adultery. When two people enter a relationship, there’s a natural expectation of sex. Of course, sex should always be voluntary. But when sex is refused for long periods of time, it can start to feel like a violation of the relationship itself.
It’s no secret that people in relationships have sexual needs. But technically speaking, there’s no real obligation for their partner to satisfy them. And trying to suppress or deny those needs is a tried and true tactic to drive your special someone into the arms of another. So what can you do?
You can be the noble fool who puts the relationship above all of your own needs, but that doesn’t mean your needs are suddenly going to go away. They’ll still be there below the surface, breeding quiet resentment for your partner.
When sexual needs aren’t being fulfilled, nine times out of ten the cause is a communication breakdown. If one hundred of you gave me your own definition of cheating, I’d have one hundred different definitions. Certain things are going to be common, namely the physical acts. But the fact is, cheating in a relationship means whatever each partner decides it means. And you shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone whose behavior you don’t approve of.
If both people aren’t having their basic needs satisfied, then there is a problem in the relationship and that problem needs to be discussed. Not talking about it will only make it worse, and committing adultery just brings a third person into the mess. As uncomfortable as it might be to bring up, you need to make your partner understand your needs.
Sure, you can run out the door and find sex elsewhere. But if you don’t identify the cause, you’re only setting yourself up for the same problem in future relationships. So look your partner in the eye and just say it. If that conversation ends the relationship, trust me when I say it was already over. At the end of the day, you have to do whatever makes you feel good about yourself when you look in the mirror.1 Comment
According to a new survey, bad credit is now a dealbreaker when it comes to romance. Apparently women are more obsessed with these numbers than men, but relationship expert Matt Titus says the numbers matter to both sexes. Titus says men don’t want another dependent, and women are looking for someone who can potentially take care of them, if worst comes to worst. But Tracy Byrnes wants to know: Is this view outdated?Leave a comment
Posted in Confessions of a NYC Matchmaker, How Men Think, Matt's Video Advice, Secrets of the Bedroom Tagged dating tips, matt titus, rachel ray, single ladies, single ladis
Sunny Anderson is usually whipping up a recipe when she stops by, but this time she’s letting us help her try to add some heat to her social life! After checking out a singles mixer and going on a date from a matchmaker, Sunny gets tips for meeting Mr. Right from Why Hasn’t He Called author, Matt Titus!1 Comment
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Could Facebook really destroy your marriage? Thirty percent of all divorces cite Facebook as one of the causes of the breakup. But is Facebook really to blame? “Say Anything!” host Joy Behar talks with Hanna Rosin, Matt Titus and Siggy Flicker about the fine line between chatting and cheating.
One of TV’s most irreverent and outspoken personalities is on Current! Joy Behar, Emmy® award-winning talk show host, has made her return to cable television with “Joy Behar: Say Anything!” airing Mon-Thurs Evenings at 6E/3P on Current TV.
“Joy Behar: Say Anything!” will feature contributors and a rotating ensemble of journalists, authors, analysts, comedians, politicos and adversaries. Joy will also interview some of the biggest entertainers, legends and newsmakers for intimate, hilarious and compelling conversations not seen anywhere else on television.
Behar is an award-winning talk show host, comedian, writer and actress. Since 1997, she has also been a co-host of the long-running “The View” and was host of “The Joy Behar Show” on HLN until late last year. Behar got her start in the early 1980s as a stand-up comedian. In 1987 she had a talk show on Lifetime Television called “Way Off Broadway” and continued to work the comedy club circuit. She was a regular on NBC’s “Baby Boom” and appeared in films including “Cookie,” “This is My Life” and “Manhattan Murder Mystery.”
“Joy Behar is a beloved veteran television personality with her finger on the pulse of what viewers care about,” commented Current TV Chairman and former Vice President Al Gore. “Millions of Americans tune in daily to hear her take on the issues along with her inimitable style. We are honored that Current TV will be Joy’s new primetime home.”Leave a comment
Posted in How Men Think, In The News, Matt's Video Advice Tagged dr drew show, how men think, matt titus
What’s worse? Being dumped or being the dumpee? That was the focus of Dr. Drew Wednesday night.
“People define their lives by their relationships, and I don’t think that’s healthy,” said Matt Titus, author of “Why Hasn’t He Called?”
Titus added, “The person that is dumped is not the problem. The dumper is the person that has the problem. Ninety-five person of the time, there’s some insecurity, some problem, or some weird thing.”
Posted in Uncategorized Tagged cheating, dating, monogamy, sex, singles
Monogamy has always been a sticky subject for me. The idea of one person forever is downright scary, nauseating even. Surprisingly though, for the past 8 years, I’ve mostly been a serial monogamous–floating one relationship to the next, with a few random bed stumblings in between until I found my next partner in crime. But the chance of any of those PIC’s leading to marriage is what eventually causes me to end it. There’s something about the permanence feeling, the restriction, the death do us part bit–it’s overwhelming, it’s too much of a commitment; it’s possibly not for me.
But I’m not a man. I say that because these are all sayings I’ve heard come from a man’s mouth. Scientifically speaking, you expect that because men are supposed to go forth and spread their seed, they can’t be bogged down. We’re supposed to just catch it, grow it and hatch it with a man potentially by our side. However, when those hormones, brain fibers or whatever, were being formed in my brain, the incessant need to marry and procreate were not included. Instead, I too, want to go forth and spread my metaphorical seed–in all aspects of life that is.
As I’ve progressed into the second half of my twenties, I’m finding other women who feel the same. We watch the girls around us getting engaged, getting preggers, starting real lives with people and we just look on with horror with fake congratulatory smiles on our face. It isn’t because we are incapable of love. Many of us have it, but like man, we weren’t hardwired with these kinds of needs. We are no better nor worse than those who are, but one things for sure, our numbers are growing.
I think we’ve just progressed into a different sort of need. As the inequality gap closes in the workforce, women out number men as college graduates and newer, faster technology emerges, we’re just getting bored. It seems silly to say, but as we become more and more successful with easier ways to communicate, we need more to stimulate our senses. One person is good for now, but he won’t be indefinitely. Just like any job and the need for career growth,one needs personal and emotional growth. I think that can eventually tap out with one person and thus boredom ensues, making it hard for anyone person to stay truly monogamous.
My hope is that I’m wrong and all of us who’ve strayed from the norm can be proven wrong one day. But until then, while we falter, we’re just going to have to visit Adam and Eve and make sure we’re well stocked on toys. Because that’s one kind of monogamy we can all get down with.2 Comments